What are your goals for the new year? As we enter into the new year, many of us set goals. While I like to set goals at the beginning of the year, I do so only after spending quiet time reflecting on the past year.
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Perspective is so important. Albert Einstein said, “There are only two ways to live your life. One is as if nothing is a miracle. The other is as if everything is a miracle.”
What is your perspective on turning older? How do you feel when your birthday approaches? I have a friend who just recently turned 50 years old. She told me she was so depressed at the thought of turning 50, that she cried all night before her 50th birthday.
Anger can be an ugly beast. Yes, sometimes, there is room for righteous anger. The kind of anger we feel when we think justice has not been served, or when we’re angry that something cruel and heartless has happened. Perhaps, we feel we have a right to be angry when senseless acts take place, and lives are lost or hurt.
I won’t break out in song and dance, but there’s a lot behind this simple phrase: Don’t Worry, Be Happy! How many of us spend so much of our waking hours worried about something? How much energy do we expend thinking and being overly concerned about someone?
How often are you your own worst enemy? Do you judge yourself harshly? Do you come down on yourself when you think you’ve made a “mistake?” Please don’t! Love yourself enough to be kind to yourself.
It took me a long time to learn to love myself. I grew up in an Asian culture where I was taught to be selfless, and to always put the needs and desires of other people before my own. The expectation was to never think of myself first, as that was selfish. My parents’, siblings’, relatives’, and friends’ needs and wants, all took priority over mine. It was ingrained in me to put my own needs and desires last. Pleasing others was more important than pleasing myself. Self-sacrifice was honorable.