There is so much happening now in the world that we have no control over: the political and economic situation, the natural disasters, the crime, the violence, and the wars. I could go on, but, I’m sure you get the picture. How can we stop ourselves from being fearful?
At a personal level, are you scared of your future? Are you worried about your career, your health, your relationships, or your finances? Is that worry accompanied by fear?
Growing up as a child, I always had some element of fear. At home, I was scared I would not meet my parents’ expectations. In school, I was petrified that I would not get top marks. With my school friends, I was afraid I wasn’t popular enough. With the boys, I dreaded I wasn’t pretty enough.
As a university student, I worried that I wouldn’t pass my exams. I was anxious I wouldn’t find a job after graduation. As a career woman starting out, I was fearful I wouldn’t make it in the corporate world. With my relationships, I was always apprehensive that they wouldn’t work out and I would be left alone.
I remember never being able to sleep well because I would go to bed with fear and anxiety, and wake up feeling the same way. Needless to say, I spent many years not having restful sleeps and waking up with a knot in my stomach.
That was a while ago. I am happy to share with you that today, I sleep very well and live without fear. How is that possible, you ask?
I am blessed to have had a few life-changing moments in my life. One of them was when I was finally able to release all of my fear. Allow me to share my revelation…
Even before I was aware of my kidney disease, I had another life-threatening situation. I was in Berlin when I got very sick. When I was rushed to emergency, the doctor told me I had a severe case of pneumonia. I had a massive amount of water in my lungs which had triggered a silent heart attack. A silent heart attack can be very dangerous as there are no symptoms associated with it. Left untreated, it can be fatal. I remembered the doctor told me I was very lucky that I arrived at the hospital when I did.
I was so surprised by this news. I had felt really sick, but never in a million years thought I could be dying. Fear instantly rushed through my veins as I realized my predicament. Here I was in Berlin, with only two friends in the city and thousands of miles away from my family. I asked God, “Why is this happening to me?” I didn’t understand.
I wrestled with my feelings trying to make sense of my situation. I thought about Deepak Chopra’s Law of Detachment. Basically, this law says that we should never be attached to the outcome. As I laid on that hospital bed, I asked myself how can I not be attached to living? I didn’t get it. I was being coached at the time and scheduled a Skype session with my life coach. I asked him, “How can I not be attached to living?” His answer to me was, “Can you totally surrender to God and the Universe?”
I didn’t answer him. I really didn’t know what to say. When I finished the Skype call, I had time to ponder over everything. After a few moments, I had an epiphany. Total surrender meant I had to relinquish control over my life and be completely detached to the outcome of wanting to live. This meant I had to be willing to die, voluntarily and with grace. I had to give up all control and trust fully in a Higher Power to orchestrate my life. I comprehended that if it was God’s plan for me to die right there alone in that hospital bed in Berlin, I was completely fine with that because I knew it was for a Higher Purpose. I deeply believed if I better served the world by dying, rather than living, then I would gladly surrender my life.
Once I understood this, I felt a total release of fear and an overwhelming peace came over me. Since that day, I have never had that fear return, and every day, no matter what is happening in my life or the world around me, that peace remains within me. I live in the moment and when I do that, I do not fear the future, nor the past. I have faith in God and the Universe to use my life for a Higher Purpose. I am prepared to face anything that is before me. I trust everything is as it should be.
You can approach life fearlessly too, by having faith and surrendering to a Higher Power, whether that is God, the Universe, or some other force you believe in. When you do, you will experience the same peace that I have. When you have peace in your heart, there is no room for fear, as the two cannot co-exist.
Love & Light,
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